Welcome everyone to the debut of my first blog on FOTP and the first entry.
I invited you all because I want you to know that this place is open 24/7 for any questions or advice on Love, Relationships, Family, Breakups, Dealing with Exes, Friendships.
This place is a safe haven for you all, even the ones that didn't click well with me... I'm happy to help if you need any help. #SpreadPositivity
Just a little intro on myself so you know who's giving the advice and then we can move on to the main course.
I'd start by saying that I'm a believer of the saying "Treat others how you want to be treated", and to the best of my ability I try to apply this to my daily life. I do slip, I'm human... I won't deny my flaws to you all, in fact I want this blog to be a place where anyone can expose their flaws in order to get to the root of the problem. I've had a rough ubringing and witnessed a bad marriage crumble. I've witnessed unrequited love and the many negative effects it can have on a person. I've lived as a bilingual child and experienced polarizing cultures and had to compare cultures growing up. I've made mistakes by associating with negative people, falling for the wrong ones, and considering certain people friends who are nothing but friends, and I'm here so I can shed light on what I do know so we altogether can all learn from my mistakes.
And I hope that you enable me to give back to you all with the little knowledge that I know.
Why does your ex claim to have loved more while breaking up and then ends up moving on way FASTER than you?
From my experience I feel it can be one of two possible scenarios:
1. That person either never loved you in the first place or considered you a temporary love from the start. Sometimes people hook up during the summer, before a huge break, before finishing college, while visiting a hometown, etc And then they develop feelings during this time, and sometimes blurt "I love u" when deep down they know that when ______ finishes (insert college/high school/vacation/summer/etc) they'll move on with their life, and you're left to pick up the pieces. This doesn't necessarily mean that the temporary relationship is linked to the change of location of him or yourself, but it could be a time thing. That person could be more into short term relationships and used to them and used to moving on after each one ends. People like that are good at hiding their true intentions and usually are capable of tricking their subjects into becoming more serious about the relationship and then when it ends for whatever reason (it could even be you ending it, but secretly caused by THEM, by them doing things that will make u end it) they just move on easily.
2. That person has loved you, but they know what they want in life and know their worth. These types of people are ones that would sacrifices time and energy for person they care about. They can even be romantic and attached, and shower you with affection. But the moment they realize that the relationship is over and that you no longer care for them, their affection for you automatically shuts off, and you are just a memory to them. Their self worth wont allow them to cry over a person that is already finished with them. They know that they deserve to be loved, and they go and seek someone to give them what they deserve. It's not coming from a place of selfishness, because there is no relationship anymore... therefore, they are alone and have the right to do what they want. It's more of a place of self-love and knowing what you want.
For people that have had this behavior of an ex moving on way too soon after claiming they cared more:
If you believe the relationship really ended, and you both agreed that you know longer want to continue the relationship, then you should remind yourself of that rather than focusing on what your ex is/isn't doing. Learning your own self worth means learning that once a chapter is closed, you turn the page and you start a new chapter. You are worth more than the people that you once associated with. You don't need a certain person to complete you, that is a perfect illusion.mp3, you complete yourself. Maybe alone time for a certain period with some contemplating and thinking would do u better than to jump into another relationship.
Anyone who has either a question about love/friendship/family relationships they want answered, just let me know in the comments or a PM. Or u can suggest a topic that I can discuss in a future entry. I'm here for anyone that needs me.