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Blog #1: Did He Even Love Me Tho?


H.O.N.E.Y

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Welcome everyone to the debut of my first blog on FOTP and the first entry. katyanna1

 

I invited you all because I want you to know that this place is open 24/7 for any questions or advice on Love, Relationships, Family, Breakups, Dealing with Exes, Friendships.

This place is a safe haven for you all, even the ones that didn't click well with me... I'm happy to help if you need any help. #SpreadPositivity

 

 

Just a little intro on myself so you know who's giving the advice and then we can move on to the main course. 

 

Intro:

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I'd start by saying that I'm a believer of the saying "Treat others how you want to be treated", and to the best of my ability I try to apply this to my daily life. I do slip, I'm human... I won't deny my flaws to you all, in fact I want this blog to be a place where anyone can expose their flaws in order to get to the root of the problem. I've had a rough ubringing and witnessed a bad marriage crumble. I've witnessed unrequited love and the many negative effects it can have on a person. I've lived as a bilingual child and experienced polarizing cultures and had to compare cultures growing up. I've made mistakes by associating with negative people, falling for the wrong ones, and considering certain people friends who are nothing but friends, and I'm here so I can shed light on what I do know so we altogether can all learn from my mistakes. 

 

And I hope that you enable me to give back to you all with the little knowledge that I know. rav3 

 

 

 

 

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Why does your ex claim to have loved more while breaking up and then ends up moving on way FASTER than you? brit11

 

 

 

From my experience I feel it can be one of two possible scenarios:

 

1. That person either never loved you in the first place or considered you a temporary love from the start. Sometimes people hook up during the summer, before a huge break, before finishing college, while visiting a hometown, etc And then they develop feelings during this time, and sometimes blurt "I love u" when deep down they know that when ______ finishes (insert college/high school/vacation/summer/etc) they'll move on with their life, and you're left to pick up the pieces. This doesn't necessarily mean that the temporary relationship is linked to the change of location of him or yourself, but it could be a time thing. That person could be more into short term relationships and used to them and used to moving on after each one ends. People like that are good  at hiding their true intentions and usually are capable of tricking their subjects into becoming more serious about the relationship and then when it ends for whatever reason (it could even be you ending it, but secretly caused by THEM, by them doing things that will make u end it) they just move on easily. aretha1

 

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2. That person has loved you, but they know what they want in life and know their worth. These types of people are ones that would sacrifices time and energy for person they care about. They can even be romantic and attached, and shower you with affection. But the moment they realize that the relationship is over and that you no longer care for them, their affection for you automatically shuts off, and you are just a memory to them. Their self worth wont allow them to cry over a person that is already finished with them. They know that they deserve to be loved, and they go and seek someone to give them what they deserve. It's not coming from a place of selfishness, because there is no relationship anymore... therefore, they are alone and have the right to do what they want. It's more of a place of self-love and knowing what you want. rav3

 

 

 

For people that have had this behavior of an ex moving on way too soon after claiming they cared more:

 

If you believe the relationship really ended, and you both agreed that you know longer want to continue the relationship, then you should remind yourself of that rather than focusing on what your ex is/isn't doing. Learning your own self worth means learning that once a chapter is closed, you turn the page and you start a new chapter. You are worth more than the people that you once associated with. You don't need a certain person to complete you, that is a perfect illusion.mp3, you complete yourself. Maybe alone time for a certain period with some contemplating and thinking would do u better than to jump into another relationship. oprah11

 

 

 

 

Anyone who has either a question about love/friendship/family relationships they want answered, just let me know in the comments or a PM. Or u can suggest a topic that I can discuss in a future entry.  I'm here for anyone that needs me.oprah11

 

 

 

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11 minutes ago, ajp said:

Thanks for including me @H.O.N.E.Ylana1

...but I'm happily married to the greatest man on the planet, Earth. So I'll move along...xtina17

Good for u and I hope u stay married, sis. But this blog is not just about the negatives in a relationship, it's about the positives too. Also every marriage goes through moments of drought or long distance that sometimes needs you to hold on to the precious times & maybe ask for advice. Each blog entry will be about a different subject. lana1

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Awww this is so sweet. I'm glad you're doing this. <3

I've been single my whole life so far so I can't say I'll relate to any of your entries, at least not romantically... I may be able to relate to them platonically though (ex-friends moving on too fast when you thought your friendship was solid, for example...).

Either way, I can't wait for more! :)

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1 hour ago, Anna-wa said:

Awww this is so sweet. I'm glad you're doing this. <3

I've been single my whole life so far so I can't say I'll relate to any of your entries, at least not romantically... I may be able to relate to them platonically though (ex-friends moving on too fast when you thought your friendship was solid, for example...).

Either way, I can't wait for more! :)

I want this blog to be about loneliness and friendships/family relationships too, not just love. If u have a certain issue or a topic, send it in a pm and I'll talk about it in the future. katyanna1

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I love this so much cry9 HONEY thanks for sharing your wisdom with us babe, it's so kind of you and it's really nice of you to create a safe haven like that katyanna1 

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1 hour ago, Sir Stansalot said:

I love this so much cry9 HONEY thanks for sharing your wisdom with us babe, it's so kind of you and it's really nice of you to create a safe haven like that katyanna1 

Thx 4 the kind words. I hope u can also suggest topics/questions to be future entries. lana1

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this is so sweet! cry9 it almost made me tear up!

 

One of the reasons why I like Katy is because her songs are so easy to connect to. My relationship ended a little bit after Prism was released, so I connected with a lot of the songs Katy wrote after her breakup with Russell. a lot of people don't like Katy because she "can't sing" or is "basic" or whatever reason, but if you listen to the full album, some of her songs have amazing lyrics you can actually connect with. 

this song especially hit the hardest, and it's one of my favorite Katy songs of all time:

 

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2 minutes ago, marykateforpie said:

this is so sweet! cry9 it almost made me tear up!

 

One of the reasons why I like Katy is because her songs are so easy to connect to. My relationship ended a little bit after Prism was released, so I connected with a lot of the songs Katy wrote after her breakup with Russell. a lot of people don't like Katy because she "can't sing" or is "basic" or whatever reason, but if you listen to the full album, some of her songs have amazing lyrics you can actually connect with. 

this song especially hit the hardest, and it's one of my favorite Katy songs of all time:

 

I will definitely bring up the topics of one-sided love and the effects of music on your well-being, in future entries. I hope you're in a better place now than u were in the past 2 years, sis. <3

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1 minute ago, H.O.N.E.Y said:

I will definitely bring up the topics of one-sided love and the effects of music on your well-being, in future entries. I hope you're in a better place now than u were in the past 2 years, sis. <3

thank you! cry9 friendships have definitely been the BIGGEST help by far these past couple of years!

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1 minute ago, marykateforpie said:

thank you! cry9 friendships have definitely been the BIGGEST help by far these past couple of years!

Well, then you were lucky to have nice people to help u out of it, hold on to those friends. Some others have to deal with it on their own, which is 20x worse. cry9 

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I saw that you mentioned me and thought "wtf? Some spam or...?", ngl.

 

But lord was I not ready for what was to come. This is actually super beautiful and intelligent, I'm in awe. Seeing intelligence on this board is always s nice change. Keep this going pls! sob1 

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10 minutes ago, Max said:

I saw that you mentioned me and thought "wtf? Some spam or...?", ngl.

 

But lord was I not ready for what was to come. This is actually super beautiful and intelligent, I'm in awe. Seeing intelligence on this board is always s nice change. Keep this going pls! sob1 

Thx 4 the kind words. Hopefully I'll be discussing all kinds of topics. If u have any specific question or topic u want me to answer or discuss, let me know. rav3

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8 hours ago, xtinaslays said:

This was good to read, but for me, I don't wanna be in love aura1 like ever aura1  I'll probably end up forever alone aura1jj4 

So u came from bad experiences? Or just a choice? ohno1

 

My next entry will be about depression caused by love. Maybe you could relate to that topic more? oprah8

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5 hours ago, Stephs said:

this is so sweet and nice of you! thanks for tagging me! I'll definitely follow your blog entries lana1

You're welcome, sis. And if u have a certain issue/question u would like me to address, u can pm me about it, and I don't even have to mention your name if I talk about it here. oprah11

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I like that you're doing this, cuz I believe all these relationships things happen in HoW? So this way it's open for everyone

I can't really relate to all this since I've been single always due to various things - but this is fun to read anyways, thanks for sharing

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On September 25, 2016 at 7:42 AM, H.O.N.E.Y said:

So u came from bad experiences? Or just a choice? ohno1

 

My next entry will be about depression caused by love. Maybe you could relate to that topic more? oprah8

No I never had any experiences with relationships yet, let alone a bad one jj4  but I've seen it happen with my friends, so it's a choice dead7

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