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Two Years of FOTP


Brightflower

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i cant even believe i havent posted one of these since January my gosh. Anyways later this month marks me two years on the forum and if im honest, i've changed so much. 

 

I joined FOTP in July 2016 in the summer summer before sophomore year in high school. I was the strict Celine, Mariah and Whitney stan that cut down anyone who dared to say anything about my fave. I mean, im still like that, but I've learned to accept the truth about people and appreciate whats right and true. In these last two years I've had some downs like gaining even more weight, getting pressured to do things that i really don't want to, had to leave some people i love behind and in result, had to move on and my family was and still is going through a not so pleasant time. Yet good things happened too. I'm not fully out to anyone because of my parents so its not like its official news that I'm gay, but everyone assumes so considering how i act and just present myself. What was good was that i was able to admit to myself that I am gay. For so long i tried to lie to my friends and those who truly cared about me who i was and to myself. Then in freshman year it all changed. I meant some people who loved me for me. They were there for me when i had a crush, there for me when i was sad, there for me when my parents were on their anti-gay rants. They made me more free about who i am and tho I'm not out officially, I'm not exactly worried what people in school say-like i said its all my parents. Sure I'm still confused about myself because religion has been drilled in me since i could think for myself and if I'm honest, I'm never letting that go because i feel that God is real and if I'm gay than that's how i was meant to be, right? He says that he loves all his children and if I'm not doing anything immoral like being a pedo or a criminal of any sorts, i can be punished for loving someone. FOTP played a large part in that too. My eyes have been opened to other opinions on everything and through here, I've learned to accept that my opinions are my opinions and I don't have to mold myself in a mindset that I don't want or believe in. So to a good 2 years on this forum and to whatever future i have with it.

 

So this was a messy paragraph, but i really hope it makes sense overall. Gosh my first since January and THIS is what I post...

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Well, I am glad you feel more mature and more self-confident. Also, you are so young, but still self-concious which will always make you decisions in the future less stressful. You also realized that what strangers think and tell about your habbits, hobbies, sexuality, etc. is not something that should deter you from your path. So, all in all, I am happy for you. happy1

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Sis you can be gay and believe in God too. Even if I don't believe in God, I don't remember the bible saying something about the gays. Be who you wanna be and don't let  anything stop you from being happy, as long as you don't hurt anyone. I know this is a cliché phrase, but you only live once, if you do it right once is enough, never forget this!

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I’m glad you’re in a happier place now sis!clap2

im also glad to see that you didn’t let your sexuality get in the way of your belief clap3

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@Just Whitney I always wanted to ask you, you said that your parents are very religious people. How do they feel about you stanning Madonna oprah12 (you stan ha right? eve1) I remember when my grandma realized I like Madonna eve1 Actually my lil shit cousin said it to her, without a reason. rav1

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@Régine Filange I know you didn't ask me, but I have this one memory when I was like 3 years old. My parents and some other family members went into the restaurant for a launch and there was song by Madonna playing ( I don't remember which one ). I started dancing in my chair and saying 'Donna, Madonna, because her name was apparently the only thing that I remember when radio host announced the song. It was funny and everyone was laughing. I mean, my parents grew up with ABBA and some other pop-rock bands from our country, but they didn't consume music like fans or stans, they listen to music in more casual way, so Madonna was also someone whose songs were played heavily.

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3 minutes ago, Ghostface said:

@Régine Filange I know you didn't ask me, but I have this one memory when I was like 3 years old. My parents and some other family members went into the restaurant for a launch and there was song by Madonna playing ( I don't remember which one ). I started dancing in my chair and saying 'Donna, Madonna, because her name was apparently the only thing that I remember when radio host announced the song. It was funny and everyone was laughing. I mean, my parents grew up with ABBA and some other pop-rock bands from our country, but they didn't consume music like fans or stans, they listen to music in more casual way, so Madonna was also someone whose songs were played heavily.

I guess your parents weren't extremely religious ppl as my grandma, cause Madonna touched their nerves sometimes in her career

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6 minutes ago, Régine Filange said:

I guess your parents weren't extremely religious ppl as my grandma, cause Madonna touched their nerves sometimes in her career

sia2

Oh they were and we are ( sort of ), but not in some blind, fanatic way. sia2

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55 minutes ago, Régine Filange said:

@Just Whitney I always wanted to ask you, you said that your parents are very religious people. How do they feel about you stanning Madonna oprah12 (you stan ha right? eve1) I remember when my grandma realized I like Madonna eve1 Actually my lil shit cousin said it to her, without a reason. rav1

my parents dont know i stan Madonna eve1 The only person they (aka my Mom) know i stan Whitney. However yeah, them being religious they were very disturbed by Madonna and Lady Gaga; i remeber when i was younger they would always use them too and benchmarks for evil in the music industry and call them "devil worshipers" eve1

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Sure I'm still confused about myself because religion has been drilled in me since i could think for myself and if I'm honest, I'm never letting that go because i feel that God is real and if I'm gay than that's how i was meant to be, right? He says that he loves all his children and if I'm not doing anything immoral like being a pedo or a criminal of any sorts, i can be punished for loving someone. FOTP played a large part in that too. My eyes have been opened to other opinions on everything and through here, I've learned to accept that my opinions are my opinions and I don't have to mold myself in a mindset that I don't want or believe in. So to a good 2 years on this forum and to whatever future i have with it.

I'm feeling this part has a little to do with our interaction in the HIV thread, because we touched on this subject lightly, but regardless, i'm very happy you really have no plans to hate yourself for loving guys, hate never make any sense tbh. wub1 

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This is beautiful oprah2

 

I don't know you well since we started talking yesterday lol3 but I'm glad you're having a great time on the forum, and I'm glad that it has affected your life, in a positive way antm1 

I'm also glad that you know within yourself who you are, and that's the most important thing, and I'm glad you don't feel this pressure to try to act differently or change who you are just because you feel like you may get judged or anything. Be who you are.

 

And you're still young so you'll have time to figure out the religion part, but just so you know, it's not what some people make it out to be, it's not anti gay and you're not hated by God or anything. I'm an atheist so I'm not really familiar with the topic as much, but I met plenty of gay people that are still religious so I don't see why it should be a problem with you, and don't let anyone make you think you're not a God's child lj1 

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