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  1. 1 minute ago, H.O.N.E.Y said:

    What happened with the Liberation listening party sis? Don't tell me it's cancelled too. jj5

     

    I'm pumped for it actually! rav2 

    In order to do it plug.dj, like we usually do, we need Youtube videos. orangu1 Only 4 songs are on there officially. Hopefully her channel uploads the audio of all songs on the album, but I doubt that will happen.

    Will try to arrange something sometime next week, but I'll be busy this weekend + the beginning of next week. So a week from now is the earliest date for it. moo1

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    25 minutes ago, Hermione said:

    Liberal feminism is more about individual empowerment. Rather than dismantling patriarchal institutions (a la radical feminism), its goal is to make reforms within them.

    Ah I see. moo1 I presume lib-fem would be closer to 3rd wave and radical-fem would be closer to 2nd wave.

    I did take a Gender Studies class one semester, but there only the 3 waves were mentioned as over-arching ideologies when we discussed the history of feminism. Afterward we went onto different aspects of feminism without categorizing them:

    -black feminism/systematic oppression 

    - feminism in relation to marriage, marital rape/domestic violence, being expected to have kids etc.

    - the whole pro-sex/anti-sex discussion

    - the othering of female bodies/normal bodily functions being considered taboo for women

    - feminism for the disabled/mentally ill

    - the male-gaze/ how women are presented in the media

    - etc.

     

    I loved that class. It was nice that it didn't try to tell you which "branch" of feminism was right or wrong, it just aimed to expose you to as many different aspects and perspectives of it as possible. oprah2

    It opened my eyes to so many things. cry6 We don't even realise that how many blatantly sexist things we come across everyday until someone points it out for us. dead2

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    Going through this list I'd say I'm mostly lib-fem. jay1 I find radical-feminism to be a little bit close-minded, ngl.

    But I do agree about the patriarchy thing. I mean, misogyny is largely systematic therefore it's socio-culturally ingrained into people's minds.

    But I didn't know that lib-fems supposedly don't fight against the patriarchy? (at least according to this) I thought that was one thing at least all branches of feminism agreed upon. um2

  2. Just now, H.O.N.E.Y said:

    IDK why it's so easy for me to specify the problems when I'm talking to someone about their problems and I can sometimes realize solutions, but when it comes to my own life and my own issues I'm mainly stuck.

     

    I've never been to a therapist btw. I have to do that someday soon. brit2

    That's pretty common imo. You're able to see other people's situation more clearly from the outside, cuz you're not involved in it. You're not subjective.

     

    And going to a therapist is amazing. oprah2  5 sessions are free for uni students here and it helped a lot a for me. antm1 

  3. 6 minutes ago, H.O.N.E.Y said:

    Damn that's like 3 future topics I want to talk about. This blog is surely for you. Stay tuned cos right after I finish the #LoveYourself series, I'm going to talk about issues like making the right choices in life, procrastination, and introversion, being a homebody. I'm very similar to your case, but also different is some ways. And the fact that I'm older than u will make me personally feel like I'm talking to my younger self and giving tips/shortcuts if I can (and all that being said, I have yet to really figure out my shit together, myself). oprah11

    Looking forward to it jj2

  4. 19 minutes ago, H.O.N.E.Y said:

    So are your concerns about future occupations or like your future location? Or something more personal like relationships/family/kids? Or is it a hobby you want to fulfill? oprah8

    More like occupation. I wanted to become a graphic designer, but I couldn't get into art college and that's how I ended up studying English, cuz I'm good at it. And I enjoy school for real, and the idea of becoming a translator/interpreter seems nice to me, especially if it gives me the opportunity to travel. After I failed getting into art school I became so uninspired and I stopped drawing altogether for years. I only recently restarted and lately I've been feeling inspired again and having those moments when a creative idea just pops into my mind.

    And I'm not sure if I should try to pursue art again after I finish university (cuz I definitely want to finish this degree), or not. Meaning to apply to art school again. Or just go on with my life and take alternative options to be creative.

    But it's not just that. It's about my social life too. I'm very introverted and don't really keep in touch with people even if we get on well. I've always been this way. Due to this and some other reasons I never really been able to establish deep friendships, and never really had a permanent set of friends I can just go out with. I get on well with 99% of the people  know, it's just that I'm not part of anyone's friend circle, so I go out very rarely and this hinders my opportunities at finding dick a guy or anything. 

    So yeah. rav2 Overall I'm fine with the way my life is. I'm mostly content being alone, I adore my own company, I just sometimes get the wish to go out and party, but it feels so awkward tagging along with established friend circles from which I know 1 person. brit10

  5. 3 minutes ago, H.O.N.E.Y said:

    That will be a future entry. Life dreams and not achieving them. Consequences. It's verrrrrry relevant to me and my story. oprah7

    Will try to collect my thoughts till then, but basically I have no motivation to change anything about my current life and I don't know if it's because I'm content or I just have no idea what else to do.

    Currently, I'm just trying to appreciate life as it is, cuz things are good rn.

  6. 3 minutes ago, H.O.N.E.Y said:

     

    Exactly that! oprah7  

     

    To some it might be more difficult to associate "fun" with physical activity, cos maybe they're just not used to moving like ever, so those people might struggle to continue to motivate themselves if they don't find something that they're emotionally drawn into that can also help them get to their goal. This also heavily applies to smokers that just can't seem to find a healthier alternative, and always feel like something is missing and I feel for them. oprah2

     

    Music really saves lives tho if you think about it. Think if people were able to reprogram themselves to be fully invested in expressing themselves through dance. That way they can sweat and sweat and sweat and continue dancing after bits of rest and drinking water, cos emotionally they are being satisfied. People can actually FOOL their bodies into loving a workout that way by not even calling it a workout. I know for a fact that Janet has done this cos she mentioned it before. rav2 

     

    But, my god, we as humans are so tragic. I remember when I was young I was super skinny and was asking grownups that I wish I had some meat on me, and look at me now wishing I lose some of that meat. We're never satisfied and we keep wishing for stuff we don't really want, then we have to pay the price. oprah2

     

     

    Dancing is an amazing way to workout. I love it oprah1

    Yeah, we definitely always want things we don't have, and once we have it, we just want something else... dead2

  7. Amazing read. oprah2 I can add a little something to the workout part, that just further proves your point.

    I'm a naturally very skinny girl, so losing weight was never something I ever had to think of. My problem is gaining weight. There were times that I thought I just had to eat more, but that's not how my body-type works. Anyone who is naturally skinny, will know this. The key is to build muscle, as gaining fat is nearly impossible for us. So I tried a few at-home type workouts, but I gave up after a few weeks each time (the longest I managed was 1,5 months I think)

    The key is to find a form of exercise that makes you feel good. For me this is yoga. It's not so much about exercise, but about enhancing health and making you feel balanced. It has improved my general mood and I just plain feel better after doing it. I started it shortly after I finally managed to get over a huge emotional break in my life and has helped so much to make me feel content and at peace with life. oprah2

    Each week I cannot fucking wait for yoga class cuz I always feel so energised after it. antm1 So ya'll find something that you enjoy doing, but is also good for you. ny1

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