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    16 hours ago, Ruthless Love said:

    I'm so happy it went well, babe! So happy for you!


    15 hours ago, Hylia said:

    Next time you go you HAVE to meet her, I’ve planted the seed! I’m glad you had such a wonderful time! oprah2 


    3 hours ago, ajp said:

    I knew you’d have a great time oprah10

    I got my ticket and can’t wait for September. I really hope she doesn’t change a thing to her set. I want that experience you had. oprah2



    15 hours ago, Divine said:

    I’m so glad you had the time of your life! oprah4 Concerts are always so special, they’re even better when the show is for your ultimate favorite singer. Like Hylia said, you need to meet her next time! There’s NO other option!  moo8

    Thanks everyone! It really couldn’t have gone any better than it did. Everything was so perfect. katy2

    1 hour ago, ajp said:

    Look, Japanese Breakfast was there:


    Queens supporting queens! She didn’t lie.

    The haters in her replies are truly pathetic. It WAS the best show I’ve ever been to. If they had been there, they would agree. legend1


    On 10/21/2018 at 6:30 PM, Ghostface said:

    I actually went through the same phase ( which I am sure is not the phase in your case ) after two years studying medicine. It also went smoothly, including building friendships, studying was exhausting, but I managed myself and didn't have any major problems finishing exams. But then, everything started to slow down, I was feeling over-saturated and my confidence took sharp turn down. It was then when I finally started to question myself even on a more serious note if I would be the good candidate for someone who will have to look after other people. Like, will I do that job like it should be done? I always wanted it for myself, but I guess things strike you out of nowhere, doubts start rising even though you saw progress while doing it before. So, I didn't want to definitely change university and instead, I took a year off to clear my mind and find that one anchor point I was holding to before. I talked to many people, including my family and friends. They actually managed to help me see that I would be doing sever mistake if I decide to lose potential on something else. But I was too occupied with the image I created for myself. And this is the aspect of your story I understand mostly. I always asked myself how will people around me see this and what picture will that paint in their head. But then again, I understood that if I continue doing this with the passion I showed in the early beginning, nothing else doesn't matter and everyone will see.

    But, your situation is more complicated, since you definitely want to abandon being teacher. And what you need to realize is that you are not making mistake, because you actually was in the position to work. The most important thing is that you are completely positive about changing your major and accepting it is the most important step. At first, I guess that your close family members and friends won't be sure about this decision, but you just have to give them time, like you gave yourself, so they can realize you are not feeling it ( or not anymore ) and that you want to pursue something else. If it doesn't make you fulfilled and happy, it isn't worth it and they will understand when put in your shoes. I don't have any suggestions for your other major in particular, since we never discussed, but some of your posts ( like in that one thread about naming your favorite book ) shows you have nice way with words ( not surprised you study English :) ) and that you know how to put them down on paper ( and this post also proves that ). Since you have mentioned you are interested in writing, maybe you can go for journalism, maybe even psychology. 


    22 hours ago, Merryem said:

    same thing happened to me (and basically most people I know in college!). i came in dead set on being a lawyer. joined every pre-law organization on campus, rose to leadership positions, joined the pre-law honor society, did legal internships. i was preparing for the LSAT even when i realized...i didn't want to become a lawyer. it was too much academia, too much grunt work, too much investment into a field where i wasn't even that passionate...i just thought it made sense with what i was good at as well as being a well-paying career. i did a complete 180 and dove headfirst into journalism instead.

    i started my 4 years at a private school and now im 3 years in, so about the same place that you are. the only advice i can really give is that no matter what you do you'll be behind people who wanted this their entire life. no matter what you switch into, you'll be behind the curve of people already deeply invested into the field. the best thing to do then is hit the ground running and go to as many club meetings as you can related to the event, join as many clubs as you can, and become deeply invested as soon as possible into the field you decide to go into. 

    i would say honestly the worst thing you can be right now is indecisive, which you evidently are. if you have decided you for sure do not want to go into teaching, you need to look forward as to what career you actually do want. and once you decide (or think you have), lazer in on it and immediately start applying to internships, looking for experience in the field, and preparing for graduate school if the field requires it.

    if you like writing, there are opportunities within the arts and fields such as journalism as well. english majors don't typically lead into lucrative careers so if that's what you're searching for (which, since you wanted to be a teacher, i guess you're not) that's fine with you; you could go into academia and prepare for a PhD, or you could go into creative writing (which is usually waay different from english major classes) and go into a field such as screenwriting. it all depends on what you want to do, but once you do decide, commit 100%.

    Thanks to both of you so much. Sorry for the late reply, I forgot that I posted this until now.

    Last night I finally broke down and wrote my parents a three-page letter explaining everything, because I knew I wouldn't be able to say it out loud without crying and I would forget something if I delivered the message verbally. It went so well and they aren't mad at me at all and fully support me. I think they're almost relieved in a way, because my current school is so expensive and a teaching degree here means 6+ years of studies. They told me they they never said anything until now because they always thought teaching was my dream, but that they can see me doing so many other things on a larger scale and they're excited to see me explore other possibilities instead of limiting myself to one path.

    The main area of interest that keeps popping up is journalism/media. I love to write about and stay in touch with the latest news/trends/fashions, and people seem to value my taste and opinions on those things. In high school I had a moderately popular Tumblr page, I did a few well-received movie and music reviews for my school paper last year, and before I got busy this summer I almost started a YouTube channel or podcast where I'd give the rundown on pop culture and celebrity gossip because there was demand for it among my friends. Social media seems like the easiest way to become visible and build a following, but I'd want to be respected and taken seriously even though I inject humor into my observations. Now that I think of it, I can ultimately see myself working for a media outlet like Buzzfeed, Teen Vogue, Entertainment Weekly, Vanity Fair, or Rolling Stone. If I were to work on my public speaking anxiety and stage fright, perhaps I could even be a Wendy Williams or Andy Cohen type figure. Maybe I'll be the first male co-host of The View/Talk/Real someday, LOL. It's like the obvious answer that's been in front of me all this time but I felt locked into being a teacher and felt guilty about pursuing it. Not that writing or talking about the entertainment industry means you'll gain notoriety yourself, but people have always said stuff to me like "Remember me when you're famous" and maybe this is what they mean. I think this could be a promising journey considering my interests and strengths.

    For now I'm going to keep researching the next step, finish the semester on a high note, and then dip my toes into all of my new options,and discover what I like best. Yesterday I was scared and confused, but today I'm relieved and hopeful. Both of your kind words meant so much to me and I can't believe I've found this much clarity in such a short amount of time!

    "We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change."


    2 hours ago, barbiej33p said:

    I love this! I can't believe Im barely seeing this. lol, good job! i always wanted to speak on this situation but felt it wasn't my place and also twitter can be malicious, making these issues about yourself are dangerous, but I firmly believe I am in the right mind and have been trying my absolute best to not add to the white fuckery. I often want to message black mutuals and ask about certain things, but I never went through with it because it just seems faux, my question was how can i contribute to the rants of black men being homophobic without overstepping my boundaries as someone who isn't black. I decided that it was just best to stay in my lane altogether, but that won't stop me from liking tweets about mysogonist men of ANY color being dragged tea2

    I commend you for your well written article and bravery to speak about the situation, it was also a touchy subject imo for white people to speak on black issues, but might I say this might be the most respectable attempt ive ever seen. Thank you for the reassurance and help to guide me to being a decent person @Hermione

    Aw, thank you so much! This was so sweet. <3

    I'm glad that something I wrote is helping people reevaluate how they approach these sensitive topics and maybe even inspiring them to have these discussions with their own families. I'll be honest and admit that I used to be the prime example of someone who was afraid to talk to my family about racism, but things have gotten so bad that it's impossible for me to just sit there and try to ignore it any longer. I'm so fed up that I no longer care about the social consequences, and I feel ashamed that things had to go so far in order for me to get to that point. I'm not at all happy with the way that my country/the world is going, and they say that if you want to see widespread change you should start with yourself first. That's why I think it's important that I confront the people I'm close to, I love, and see on a daily basis about these kinds of things. So far it's just baby steps, but I can tell that they're slowly figuring out what is and isn't okay and I think I'm actually getting through to them with our talks. They're starting to show empathy and actually listen instead of just going on tirades about "reverse racism" and how "political correctness is ruining everything" without letting me finish what I'm saying. I never thought that would happen, but you'll never know unless you keep trying.



    Not even gonna reply to that bullshit about how "the SJWs" are the left-wing equivalent of the KKK, "the alt-right is generally liberal," and "racism isn't a huge issue." Once was enough for me, but someone else can bite if they want. laughcry1



    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    Can this be a civil discussion please? Not a back and forth where we (or just you) demonise each other for having different opinions. Maybe we could actually find common ground.


    *but then asks for civil discussion*

    You're not off to a great start. I highly doubt we'll find common ground here, but sure.

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    But don't the SJWs do the exact a similar thing.

    When things like this are posted. 

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    Or when far left wing people disrupt events and get physical, in attempt to get rid of freedom of speech. 

    What do you mean? How are those tweets examples of white "SJWs" asking how they can help black people but making it about themselves? That's what I was saying and I fail to see the correlation.

    The original blog post doesn't even have anything to do with the SJWs you always bring up in debates so I don't even understand what you're trying to argue or what you're doing in here with these tweets and videos honestly. SJWs are like the evil boogeyman at this point.

    I agree that people are too uncomfortable having their opinions challenged and listening to opposing viewpoints (maybe this is our common ground?), which are things I find necessary for educational purposes since research and discourse can make you more confident in your own arguments and empathetic to others who disagree but may still be good people (not KKK/Neo-Nazis/white supremacists/alt-right/racists though, who have continuously shown that they have nothing to offer but hate). But frankly I find it hard to sympathize with notorious reactionary troll Milo Yiannopoulos' cameraman of all people. laughcry1

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    They don't even hold their own side accountable for racist shit.

    e.g. https://www.google.co.nz/search?q=blm+tweets&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwji9IaV8_vVAhVFgLwKHXI0CTcQ_AUICigB&biw=1249&bih=589

    Shouldn't we start holding people accountable regardless of race for any genuine racism they express? Or is it completely fine to be racist, just as long as you aren't white.

    I can almost guarantee that if you ask the vast majority of "SJWs" what they think of those tweets about raping and killing "white bitches" they'll denounce them. Do you really think they would be okay with condoning violence and abuse against women? And obviously the violence in this video is wrong too but even bringing this up in the first place is exactly what I meant by the #AllLivesMatter crew showing up to derail an important topic. It's fine to talk about these things happening but if the only time people bring it up is when something happens to black people, it looks like they're trying to shift attention to themselves and don't really care about what just happened. It's like going to a funeral and complaining that you just lost someone too as if that's somehow supposed to diminish or redirect everyone else in the room's grief. This blog post is specifically about how white people can help people of color against racism that they face and if you want to make your own then go right ahead because that's all this one is about.

    I feel like we have different definitions of racism and different priorities on how it should be responded to, which is why we disagree so much on the subject because that's the root of the whole discussion. I don't think that's ever going to change which is why in the past I've felt seriously debating you would be useless but you asked for it so here we are.

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    How are the alt-right in the same sphere as these other two? Right wing doesn't equate to evil. 

    Do you even know what alt-right means? It's a dog-whistle for white nationalism, so no, it's not the same as simply right-wing and yes, it does equate to evil. Richard Spencer popularized the term so he could publicly get away with white supremacy and neo-Nazism with little backlash.

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    I'm so over leftists not calling out the racists on their side.

    I too agree that the left can be just as racist (and the other -ists and -phobics) as the right, but probably for different reasons. Like I said, this post isn't about that so feel free to make your own!

    And below you said that liberals and left-wingers are two different groups that tend to overlap, which is true, but here you countered my statement about liberals with one about left-wingers as if you were making an equivalency and using them as synonyms.

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    Stop making excuses for racism towards white people.

    I'm white and I've lived in America for almost two decades. Not only am I just white, but my skin is very pale and I have blonde hair and blue eyes so I pretty much look Aryan by Hitler's standards. I've traveled to many parts of my country throughout the Northeast, South, and Midwest, interacted with people from all races, ages, and social classes, and never once has there been a single instance where I faced racism whether it was institutional or personal. You could ask any of my white family or friends and you would get the same exact answer. I keep hearing that America is where "racism against white people" is growing but I have yet to encounter it. If it was real, wouldn't I be a prime target due to my very European features? I don't know her, I've never experienced that emotion, I thought she sang or rapped or whatever. If it's not here, then where is it?

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    How about you have a talk and not think you're inherently right all the time and listen to other people's ideas? "shut them down" sounds like you don't want to give others the right to talk and express their opinions. That sounds like the beginnings of fascism.


    Also, your attitude is coming off a lot more authoritarian than liberal. 

    Liberal and Left wing are different things. Right wing people can be liberals too.

    I thought this was supposed to be civil? So much for that. rip4 It's kind of funny because that's exactly what people say about you all the time, and here you are now trying to call someone else out for it. That sounds like projection to me.

    This isn't about people with simple opposing opinions. I've debated with my own friends on here about stuff and listened to what they had to say and they did the same to me with mutual respect. I do the same all the time in real life. This is about people who are legitimately racist, so yes, I'm going to shut down their argument. You're not allowed to respond back to someone whose views you disagree with? I never said I was suppressing their freedom of speech, just that I would respond. Saying that someone shouldn't be allowed to challenge racist speech sounds more like suppression of free speech to me.

    And for your information, I took that political compass test and I'm nowhere near authoritarian and I'm only barely left of center so the slinging around of SJW, fascist, and authoritarian can stop. Thanks! :)

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    Really? Because YouTubers with controversial opinions that go against the left get their videos demonetised regularly. People who question the legitimacy of your narrative are automatically called racists. 

    So YouTube's policy regarding videos with inflammatory content accurately reflects the consequences that my entire country faces for being racist? The average person isn't even a YouTuber, so if that's the best example you could come up then that's a pretty low bar and proves my point.

    People here don't even get suspended from school for doing something racist unless it was something truly extremely terrible, and even then it's usually only for a few days. Shouldn't people have the freedom to talk back to or stop associating with family, friends, colleagues, and classmates whom they believe subscribe to racist ideologies? Shouldn't universities and businesses have the right to reject potential employees and students as a result of values they've expressed online that they believe will tarnish the reputation or image that the school or company wants to portray to the public? Freedom of speech does not protect the speaker from accountability or consequences for their words, except those from the government of course.

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    Most of those people are dead. Most of the oppressors too. If you're gonna bring history into it, shouldn't we look at indentured servitude that primarily affected white individuals and take into consideration that most whites weren't slave owners.

    To quote a Vice article:

    "Blacks were never close to a majority in America, so it's mathematically impossible for most whites to have owned black slaves. At the peak of black slavery in the South, only 6 percent of Southern whites owned slaves. If you include the white people in the North, it means that only 1.4 percent of white Americans owned black slaves at the HEIGHT of slavery."

    Taken from this article that delves into misconceptions about slavery.

    Indentured servants signed contracts. Slaves didn't.

    So because only six percent of Southern white people owned slaves, that somehow diminishes "what black people faced for daring to stand up for themselves throughout history" (my exact words)? I wasn't only talking about slavery but also segregation and other systems of racism between the era of slavery and now.

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    Black people have all the same rights in the US as whites and this includes voting rights. They can vote. They make up 13.3 percent of the population (source). They have power as a collective. Sure it isn't as much as the white population, but they still have some. Saying otherwise is intellectually dishonest.

    They are considered equal in the eyes of the law, but not society. That is what I meant and it would be intellectually dishonest to deny that.

    13 hours ago, Rosé said:

    So they want people to agree with them, but they're not bothered to convince them? Sounds like a great way to get people on your side.

    Asking what we can do to help and starting a conversation isn't helping and is actually "obnoxiously self serving"? It sounds like according to you, black people don't want us to offer help at all, while somehow helping them at the same time. Does this not seem just a tad ludicrous? 

    Why should they have to answer to people who think they should be lynched or enslaved because of their DNA? Give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day, teach a man to fish himself and he'll eat for a lifetime.

    It is if you're a famous pop star with millions of Twitter followers who has a long and storied history of riding the coattails of social movements in order to look like a good person. I'm not going to expand on that because this isn't Battlegrounds and I'm not interested in turning this into a stan war.


    10 minutes ago, SWINΞ said:

    The only thing I disagree with is the comparison with #ThisIsNotUS with #NotAllMen because the idea is not that white people are acting repulsively but that the US as a whole is. I don’t think “us” was meant to mean “white people” I think it means “Americans”. 

    You're right in that #ThisIsNotUs refers to America as a whole, but I still feel like it has the same sentiment as #NotAllMen. People are using it to shift the blame from themselves and act like they had nothing to do with contributing to that culture, which is exactly how #NotAllMen is used. And personally I've only seen white people using that hashtag, probably because most people of color know that it IS us. But I think we're on the same page, other than that!


    8 minutes ago, Simón. said:

    Can you show me the study cause i never heard about that. But I do know that socialization plays a role in the arguments and I do understand where it comes from. 

    I think the most that bothers me with the discussion is that radfems aren't aware of their privilege of being cis. 

    Here you go:



    Second, regarding any crime, male-to-females had a significantly increased risk for crime compared to female controls (aHR 6.6; 95% CI 4.1–10.8) but not compared to males (aHR 0.8; 95% CI 0.5–1.2). This indicates that they retained a male pattern regarding criminality. The same was true regarding violent crime. By contrast, female-to-males had higher crime rates than female controls (aHR 4.1; 95% CI 2.5–6.9) but did not differ from male controls. This indicates a shift to a male pattern regarding criminality and that sex reassignment is coupled to increased crime rate in female-to-males. The same was true regarding violent crime.

    And yeah, like I said, each side needs to do a better job at listening and understanding where the other is coming from because they could learn a lot and discover that they might even agree with some of their views. There are definitely bad apples from both groups but I truly don't believe that trans women are sexist as a whole or that radical feminists are transphobic as a whole.


    20 hours ago, Simón. said:

    I agree with your first paragraph! 


    And of course it's not the same on some issues e.g abortion rights, but I do see how radfems are treating trans woman like shit and don't see them as woman. I have some trans friends and they feel like they don't have a place anywhere, because they don't get taken serious by anyone. 

    I just don't like that some radfems see trans woman (even after transition) as someone who is opressing without actually thinking that them being cis could be also an oppression tool. I do agree that it's something different before trans woman decide to do transition. 

    So, asking you, are you supporting for excluding her from feminist circles:



    She passes as a cis woman, but still radfems think she shouldn't be allowed in their circles?


    Okay, I'm glad we seem to be on the same page now, and that we're having a civil discussion without slinging around accusatory remarks of misogyny and transphobia. That happens far too often in these types of conversations elsewhere, and all it does is keep each side from listening to each other's valid arguments. dead1

    As much as this answer seems like a cop-out, it's not up to me who is allowed in women's spaces. That's for women to decide, not me.

    It's such a touchy subject lately, because it's far less black-and-white than it seems on the surface and I'm not even sure what I think about it honestly. Trans women want their gender identity to be respected by being allowed in women's spaces, and radical feminists are against it because trans women have still been socialized as male and studies have shown that they still have the same rate of perpetrating violence against women that cis men do. But then, if you force trans women into men's spaces, they'll become the victims of violence themselves. The reality is that it's a lose-lose situation either way, since nobody deserves violence. A few months ago I would have easily sided with the trans women on this issue, but now I think it's more complicated than that and both sides make a good case. There has to be some sort of solution or at least a compromise that will make both sides happy, but unfortunately it will probably be a while before we figure it out.


    12 hours ago, Simón. said:

    " isn't the rest all just sexist stereotypes of how a woman is expected to appear and behave?" Wait, so you think that being trans makes you sexist? ari1 You are totally dismissing the things trans woman go through and I'm actually quite shocked about this. 

    There are trans woman who transition from a very young age who don't get socialized as male at all. Trans woman have one of the highest murder rate and y'all acting they are somewhat privileged. And yeah acknowledging is something different than excluding them. Terfs are truly something on their own. 

    I never said that, but once you omit female biology, there is not a single trait that one could argue applies to all women. What exactly does it mean to 'feel like a woman'? I have never seen anyone give a legitimate answer, because they usually resort to the brain sex argument (which has been debunked), or misogynistic gender stereotypes about femininity and fashion. This leads to gender-nonconforming people who are just different and don't have gender dysphoria being made to feel like failures as their birth sex because they don't have this innate feeling of gender identity (since it's a social construct) and get backlash from their families, their peers, and society for straying from gender roles, stereotypes, and expectations. I used to be one of them myself and thought there was something wrong with me because I didn't care about a lot of "manly" or "masculine" things, but nobody subscribes one hundred percent to every single gender role and it doesn't mean I'm any less of a man for not having some mystical innate male spirit. The majority of people don't.

    I'm not dismissing or denying what trans women go through or speaking on behalf of them in any way either. I'm an ally and I'm totally sympathetic to their struggles, but it would be disingenuous to claim that they are the same exact ones that cis women go through. There is definitely some overlap like the high rates of violence committed against them, but until transition trans women are still very much perceived as male by society and thus are treated accordingly. Privilege isn't about what you are, it's about the way that the world sees you. For example, white-passing celebrities like Halsey and Nicole Richie have been afforded certain opportunities by society that they might not have gotten if they didn't pass. Wouldn't it be offensive to non-passing black women who haven't been given that same treatment to claim that those women didn't benefit from white privilege despite their race? Even though the experience of feeling trapped in the wrong body and constantly being misgendered is certainly a traumatic one, it only makes sense that the same would apply to gender.


    4 hours ago, Kirjava said:

    Ah I see. moo1 I presume lib-fem would be closer to 3rd wave and radical-fem would be closer to 2nd wave.

    I did take a Gender Studies class one semester, but there only the 3 waves were mentioned as over-arching ideologies when we discussed the history of feminism. Afterward we went onto different aspects of feminism without categorizing them:

    -black feminism/systematic oppression 

    - feminism in relation to marriage, marital rape/domestic violence, being expected to have kids etc.

    - the whole pro-sex/anti-sex discussion

    - the othering of female bodies/normal bodily functions being considered taboo for women

    - feminism for the disabled/mentally ill

    - the male-gaze/ how women are presented in the media

    - etc.


    I loved that class. It was nice that it didn't try to tell you which "branch" of feminism was right or wrong, it just aimed to expose you to as many different aspects and perspectives of it as possible. oprah2

    It opened my eyes to so many things. cry6 We don't even realise that how many blatantly sexist things we come across everyday until someone points it out for us. dead2

    That class sounds so interesting and I'm glad it was an eye-opening experience for you! It's great that they didn't tell you which way to think and approached each aspect through an objective lens. I've taken Sociology but never anything about women's history or feminism, so unfortunately my knowledge on those subjects is limited to what I've read in books and on the Internet. I would love to take a class like that as an elective someday, if the opportunity were ever to arise.

    2 hours ago, Simón. said:

    I disagree with several points of radical feminism,but with parts I disagree the most with are trans-related issues:

    -defines women by their biology.

    -sees gender as an oppressive social structure, is critical of transgender activism and supports gender abolitionism and gender-nonconformity.

    -believes that women are entitled to female-only spaces free of all males including trans women.

    -criticized for excluding men and trans women from the movement, 'reducing womanhood to a vagina' and promoting separatism of the sexes which has widely been deemed unrealistic.

    Those things are flat out transphobic. Feminism is not going to function if you exclude trans woman. "safe spaces free of all males including trans woman" Except that Trans woman are not male. 


    Fair enough, but apart from biology, isn't the rest all just sexist stereotypes of how a woman is expected to appear and behave?

    And trans women are, in fact, male. Yes, they identify as women, but they still have XY chromosomes and as a result were socialized as male from all the way from birth to their transition which has granted them male privilege despite their gender identity. That is what makes them trans women as opposed to cis women. Cis women and trans women have been socialized differently due to sex-based oppression, and thus have different experiences. Acknowledging biology and material reality is not transphobic.


    10 hours ago, Hannah said:

    I'm kinda like you tbh, I have attributes that are from both sides. I don't agree 100% with either side but both sides have great points made while both also have their faults. Ngl I myself didn't really know about how there was two different kinds so I learned something new from this! You're still my favorite raging SJW libfem here though! jj5 

    Always happy to help bb!

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    46 minutes ago, Kirjava said:

    Going through this list I'd say I'm mostly lib-fem. jay1 I find radical-feminism to be a little bit close-minded, ngl.

    But I do agree about the patriarchy thing. I mean, misogyny is largely systematic therefore it's socio-culturally ingrained into people's minds.

    But I didn't know that lib-fems supposedly don't fight against the patriarchy? (at least according to this) I thought that was one thing at least all branches of feminism agreed upon. um2

    Liberal feminism is more about individual empowerment. Rather than dismantling patriarchal institutions (a la radical feminism), its solution is to make reforms within them. Common goal, different approach!


    On July 7, 2017 at 1:57 AM, Can't Come Up With A Name said:

    is this to someone on fotp or irl

    We met on another forum but they have accounts here. It doesn't matter who they are though, because I got out what I needed to say and fortunately I'm talking to one of my old friends again as a result.


    13 minutes ago, HerPerfumesHoldingMeRansom said:

    I don't know who this is about - and I really don't need to know - but I just wanted to say I love you. And I wish I could give you a big hug.

    Thank you so much. hug1

    Someone actually forgave me because of this and we are talking again and repairing our friendship. I have no regrets!


    Thank you all for the kind words, I appreciate it so much! <3

    2 hours ago, Dangerous Jim said:

    wouldn't it be better to post this where your friends can see? xtina1 

    What makes you think they can't? I'm not getting into the details of what I mean by that, but I got my feelings out and I can move on now so it doesn't matter either way.

  1. 2 minutes ago, Breathless Mahoney said:

    What did you do again?


    Also, there were like 7 different kids with fidget spinners. I'm not gonna get all hipster and say it's dumb just because I don't want one, but I'm not what the great appeal of the thing is. It's basically a plastic pinwheel without the stick.

    I did everything, the rides were for little kids so they weren't that difficult to run and only needed one person at each one. So I took the tickets, buckled them in, and operated it. A triple threat legend! gaycat1